As we’re coming back from long hiatus,
we would like to take a moment to reflect on our mission
and what makes our world so unique and amazing.
Stay tuned as we guide you along why we do certain things
and turn our attention towards continuing to make Wonderland so special.
It is very important that everyone at our parties is and feels safe - and to make sure that this happens, we ask you to follow these simple rules:
First of all, please please please, make sure that you always get consent for everything you do - and remember that not only 'no means no' but also maybe means no, silence means no - and in fact, anything but yes means no.
Don't be pushy: it's ok to be excited, it's not ok to get carried away, so always ask - and keep asking. Sometimes a hug or a kiss can be misunderstood as an invitation to something more. Make sure you have a permission before you go further.
Always be clear about your boundaries and make sure you are comfortable with what's happening. It's your right to say no at any point. Have a safe word or gesture.
See something? Say something! If you see or experience something that is not right, please let us know immediately. It's much easier to deal with the problems right then and there. Don't be shy or embarrassed, talk to us!
From now on we will be introducing guardians to guard the entry to the play room - and to make sure that everyone is safe and happy. They will have visible armbands, so will be easy to spot.
Find them if you need to talk to someone, they are there to help!
Remember: CONSENT IS SEXY - AND NECESSARY!
To increase safety at our events, Wonderland introduced a WonderBuddy*.
You need WonderBuddy to come to our events.
Who is WonderBuddy?
It's a person that knows you and vouches for you. And vice versa.
You are both responsible for each other and each other's behavior at Wonderland. If either of you misbehaves or breaks the rules you will both be held responsible.
Who can be my WonderBuddy?
It can be your friend, your partner, it can be a single person or a couple;
they can be the same or another gender. It doesn't matter.
What matters, is that you trust each other.
Do I need a WonderBuddy to come to Wonderland?
Do I and my WonderBuddy(-ies) need to arrive at the same time?
Can I look for WonderBuddy online, e.g.. in a Facebook group?
We strongly recommend that you don't. A WonderBuddy is someone that you know and trust. Are you sure you can say that about someone you found randomly on the internet just before the party?
We don't allow WonderBuddy personals in Wonderland groups.
What if I don't know anybody?
We will soon be organizing Wonderland Meet and Greet - social gatherings where you can meet us and we can meet you - and get to know each other. There will be one in the next couple of months, so check the website again soon for more info.
We truly believe that this system will help create a better and safer space for all of us. Please let us know if you have any questions or ideas.
(*WonderBuddy is inspired and based on PAL System - Pervy Activity Liaison, created by Kinky Salon)
Wonderland requires on-theme costumes!
(Elaborate kink attire is also acceptable. Street clothes are NOT)
As you all know, participation is not only a huge part of the fun,
but a requirement to join us in our kinky little kingdom and that's why we ask of you is to wear costumes.
This is a HUGE part of what makes Wonderland so special.
Your outfit is the first indication that you understand our rules,
believe in what we are trying to achieve,
and are down to put effort into helping us create a vibe.
Those who don't come in costume show us that they have not read our rules and therefore have missed all the other important information they contain.
To our dismay, we had quite a number of people
come in street clothes in the past.
This is a huge NO.
We reserve the right to turn away
anyone who doesn't come in costume and is unwilling to make the adjustments we require.
To all you cats who read our rules
and continuously bring your A-game, we love you.
For anyone concerned about being able to find or come up with a costume:
We have a curated Pinterest page that will be included when the tickets are released.
The Facebook group is a good place to ask for help as well.
Many of our organizers are active in the group and are happy to help to ensure that no one is underdressed and everyone has a good time.
Wonderland isn't for everyone.
We don’t tolerate racism, sexism, colorism, homophobia, biphobia, interphobia and transphobia or hostility, antisemitism, Islamophobia, fascism, age discrimination, ableism and other and/or intersectional forms of discrimination.
If you cannot adhere to these simple rules, then Wonderland is not the place for you.